Rebuilding After a Loss
t's been a year, maybe even two since cancer took the person you love. The veil that has kept you apart from everyone around you is finally starting to thin and the light is beginning to come through.
You see clearly that you have been in pure survival mode when alone and on autopilot when with others.
Muddling through work
Eating because it needs to be done
Bi-weekly house cleaning (maybe)
Binge watching TV
Going out only when you feel obligated
The light coming through the veil is helping you see that survival is no longer where you want to reside. You are ready to find yourself again because you realize that even though they are gone, YOU are still here, and not honoring the life you have is feeling like you're dishonoring them.
But where to begin?
To rebuild who you are now, you have to get clear on what is truly important to YOU. The list has been mounting about what is NOT meaningful to you anymore, and yet in your grief you haven't been able to collect your thoughts for what is next.
As someone who lost both my father and my best friend to cancer, I know the stress that comes from being caught between who you were and who you are becoming. It took me 5 years to make the shift because I was determined to figure it out myself...because that's what I should do right?
I want to offer you the option of handling your transition differently.
What should have been my first step was admitting I needed help. I am not just saying this as a coach, but as someone who has been through this, that I think everyone needs someone (therapist or coach) to lean on during this time. Having someone who can see through the bullsh*t you are telling yourself to get by is invaluable.
So I'm offering you the opportunity of dedicated time to get clear on defining what is next. Because you've read the brochures and seen the websites filled with canned info that's supposed to help but doesn't, and that's because your needs are different.
My 4+ years of coach training has provided me a figurative "store" of tools that you can choose from to create the toolbox that is just right for your next steps. I know you COULD do this on your own, with time, with perseverance, dedication and your own accountability...but you don't have to.
I see you.
I believe in your journey, and so do they.🫶
