The QUEST for Self Worth
Photo by Stefan Schnur
I have been pondering some big questions lately about how to best build my business and serve my courageous clients. I even took some time off from social media to really hone my focus on creating something amazing to support them as best I could.
As a coach who works with 40+ year old women working to rescue themselves from the pitfalls of people pleasing and perfectionism, I was trying to figure out how to create ONE program to be the perfect "how to". A way to "package it up" because my clients will want an easy path of point A to point B. Right?
The questions I was trying to answer were:
✨How do we know/learn we are worthy?
✨How can I retrace what's worked for me to help others?
✨How do I provide something that hasn't already been offered a million times?
Along the journey to finding the answer to these questions, I realized something. I was the one who needed to have the neat orderly delivery method, because I am also a recovering people pleaser and perfectionist myself.
This was one of those times where I became fixated on the outcome and thought it wise to force a path in that direction. I, metaphorically, left the beautiful winding trail I'd been walking through the woods and chose instead to sweat and bushwhack my way to what I hoped would be something better, only to end up at a dead end. The good news is, I acquired valuable info about myself along the way.
What conclusion did I finally reach after all of my time and focus?
💥Life is about the journey, NOT the destination.💥
Yeah, I've heard that one before too...and yet, it's true.
There is no straight and easy path to knowing/learning our worth. You can't dance the same steps as me to get where I am in MY journey, and I can't offer a a miraculously fast train or "5 Steps" to this outcome I would love for you to experience.
The reason being? This is a QUEST that you have to choose to accept when you're READY for change.
Your journey will be different from mine and everyone else's because we are all individuals who have been shaped by our experiences, and OUR interpretations of our experiences make the journey even more unique.
With that in mind, what I CAN humbly offer is to be a companion on your QUEST for self worth. Someone who'll carry the tools you'll need along the road as you face your dragons, or hold the light up so you can see where you are in the darkness along the unknown roads of your mind.
I can tell you that there are a few signposts that have repeatedly come up for myself and others along the way, and yet the directions you take and the destinations you arrive at are of your own making.
The signs will ask you to:
QUESTION - Learn to Question any thoughts and fears that hold you back from walking your path and fighting the dragons along the way.
UNCOVER - Uncover the values you hold most dear, that make you, YOU, and they will provide the compass for the journey ahead.
EXPLORE - Explore what it's like to create boundaries, because you might find some unsavory characters along the way that will try to lure you off of YOUR path.
SHIFT - The work you have done has helped Shift your focus inwards. You're less reliant on the input of others and instead begin to trust your own knowledge of how to handle the terrain ahead.
THRIVE - You have always known there was more to life, and the journey to self worth and the tools you've gathered along the way have helped you learn to Thrive.
Not everyone has the courage to accept this QUEST, and yet, I've learned one thing for certain in my life. Whether you accept the QUEST or not, you will still have to battle your dragons.
So, how do you choose to live?
If you want to know if you're READY to create a change in your life and explore what's possible. I have a questionnaire that will help you think about what you really want, and help you get curious on challenging the REASONS you're holding yourself back. Sign up for my newsletter and it's yours.❤️
