Creating Boundaries

Choosing to create and honor a boundary by saying "no" to someone who needs help does not make you a terrible human.

If you are tapped out, exhausted, or have need of that time for yourself, you will not be able to give that person 100% of what they need.

➡ There will be an underlying frustration.
➡️ Your level of effort will match your low energy.
➡️ If you might even resent that you can't put 100% of your energy into something YOU want to do as a result of saying, "yes" to someone else.

I get it, it's easier to keep the people you know, love and respect happy by agreeing to whatever they need.

👉 It doesn't require you to have a difficult conversation.
👉 It's easy to let yourself down, you can always do what you want "later".
👉 Getting appreciation from someone is an easy "win" for the ego.

The problem is that you have been doing this for most of your life, because you've deemed YOUR needs as not important. You are so used to looking to others for what you should do that you don't know what YOU want or need.

It's time my friend. Time to choose you. ❤️

Saying "no" when you need to is a sign of respect for both yourself and the other person. They will find someone else who will be 100% engaged and be grateful for it, and YOU will have the win of knowing you did what's right for you.

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My name is Jennifer Lockhart, ACC, ELI-MP, and I coach women over 40 who are ready to intuitively heal their hearts and increase their
confidence and selfworth 💃